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We Turned Off Our Cable for the Summer & Now Have No Plans of Turning it Back On

Have you ever had a happy accident?

Disconnecting our cable was not initially in the plan, but ATT & Comcast didn’t want to cooperate, so we decided to keep our money in our pockets.

Our cable & internet were originally bundled together with AT&T, when our contract was due to end in June. Usually, the first year is a deal you can’t refuse (that’s how they suck you in), then it triples on year 2.

When our AT&T contract was nearing the end, we decided to leave AT&T and go with Comcast. This time, Comcast had a great deal, but the phrase “you get what you pay for” quickly comes to mind.

Quickly, what happened….

Comcast didn’t initially come when they said they would, and I took off work to meet them! After we called to remind them, they wanted to reschedule for 10 days later! 10 DAYS WITHOUT CABLE AND INTERNET? We then received our first bill, which was for something we didn’t order. My husband tried to cancel, but we learned that it really wasn’t cancelled. We also found out they had an incorrect name for him, and wouldn’t change it. We had to pay a deposit because they couldn’t find our address (WHAT!). In the end, we received the deposit back and finally decided to go back to AT&T for internet.

We decided to forgo cable since school was out and the kids would be in camp, but UNFORTUNATELY WE COULD NOT LIVE WITHOUT INTERNET. We had already been without it for 3 weeks and who knew how much the internet was apart of our everyday lives?

We ended up with AT&T for internet and let the kids know that Disney, Nick, & more would not be returning for the summer. I think I remember seeing tears roll down my daughters face.

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HOW DID WE LIVE WITHOUT CABLE:

  • We lived! Over the summer, my kids enjoyed camp and on the weekends they rented movies. Luckily this was a great summer, and riding bikes with the kids when I got off work became a normal occurrence.
  • Rented movies: Redbox saw us a lot over the summer, but the cost didn’t come close to the cable bill we had with 3 boxes. My husband is Mr. Coupon, so most of the time we had a BOGO movie anyway. ($1.20 for two)
  • Antenna: Someone told my husband about ‘bunny ears’, which is basically an antenna that you plug in to your television and allowed us to get all of the local channels. This is great because, we can still see the local news and what’s going on in the world. Fortunately for me, most of my shows are on ABC, so I won’t miss Scandal!

WHY DID WE DECIDE NOT TO TURN IT BACK ON

Well, June and July came and went, and now school was starting. It’s now January and we still do not have cable. We decided that we are doing just fine without it and we like keeping our coins.

With the antenna, we see all the local channels and for the remainder of the shows we can’t see on TV, we catch on YouTube, Online and Netflix.

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We recently purchased a Samsung Blue-ray BD-F5900 Disc Player that allows us to stream anything from our tablets, Netflix, Hulu, all the kids programming and a range of other things on our TV. So we really don’t feel like we are missing out on anything anymore.

WHAT DO WE MISS?

My husband misses ESPN. I miss CNN & OWN. I can go on CNN.com anytime, but it’s not the same. CNN to me, was like ESPN to my husband. That was the channel my TV stayed on, because I love knowing what’s going on in the world.

As far as OWN, I miss Oprah! She doesn’t allow her material to be shown online at all sooooooo, I got halfway into The Have & Have Nots and will never know what happened to her son that was in the coma! Also, I miss my Lifeclasses and Super Soul Sunday.

Although we miss those 3 networks, it’s not worth $80 a month to get them back.

Oh! I miss DVR!

WHAT ARE WE GOING TO DO GOING FORWARD:

We have recently purchased Netflix and still deciding on Hulu. Both of those together would be around $20 a month, and still cheaper than our cable bill. Then the kids will be able to watch what they want, when we allow them to versus crying about missing a show at a certain time.

I’ve even did Facebook polls on Apple TV, Roku & Google Chrome. The jury is still out on those. Right now, it has become our new normal so we’re ok.

WHAT’S WEIRD

The only negative about not having cable is when we have considered having a baby sitter come over. I’ve said to my husband, “What are they going to watch?” My husband’s response is, “They are here to watch our children, not tv!”

Although he is correct, it’s still seems wrong!

Do you still have cable? Have you ever considered turning it off? 

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My 9 Year Old’s First Kiss & My “I’m Not Ready for this!” Moment #motherhoodmonday

First Kiss,

2nd Grade:

Son: Mom, I like a girl named Jasmine.

Me: Awwww, ok.

This little girl wasn’t in his class, but he saw her in the cafeteria and the hall ways during the day. Of course nothing ever came of this school boy crush. His actual first crush.

Now, Fast Forward to 4th Grade:

Me: Do you still see Jasmine at school? Do you still have a crush on her.

Son: Yes mommy. I see her in Kilometer Kids! I still like her, but I like more girls too!

Daughter: Oooooh Mommy, Earl likes Kennedy, Tara, Emily, Emerson, Kayli, Riley, Shannon & …..

Mom: Ummmm, Son is this true?

Son: *Silence, but smiles*

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This past Friday, my son was over his friends house for a few hours. When my husband brought him home, he ran up to me and immediately asked me can he take his shower in the morning and go to bed right now.

I gave him the nod, and he kissed me goodnight.

I didn’t think anything about it because when he is really tired, he will ask can he take his shower the next day. I noticed my husband came in and called our son back into the living room for a discussion. I tried to stay out of it, but of course I couldn’t help but notice that my son was in trouble.

My husband kept asking my son to explain his actions, and he started to stutter and carefully think about his responses. My husband would not let up. I walked over and asked what is wrong. My husband asked me to give them some time alone. WHHHAADD!! I want to be involved! I want to know what he did! Instead, I gave my son a hug and walked into the kitchen….. still trying to listen.

After a few minutes of talking, it ended with my son getting in BIG trouble, issuing an apology, and even some crying before he headed to bed.

What Happened?

My son was playing with his friend and these two (9 year old boys), leave the house without asking (major issue #1) and go to a neighbors house. A little girl answers and my son kisses her! Yup! Just kisses her.

No, she didn’t ask him too.

No, he didn’t ask her can he do this.

Those are all the details I have.

What I don’t know…

  • How the girl responded
  • How my son’s friends father found out
  • If her parents knew
  • If it was a peck or a french kiss
  • Why he did it
  • If he went there with intentions to kiss this little girl

Why don’t I know this? Because my husband didn’t even ask!!!!!!! MEN!!! 

My husband explained to our son why what he did was wrong for 2 main reasons:

  • You are 9!
  • You do not force yourself on anyone.

My son has become girl crazy over the last year and if he is trying to kiss girls at 9 – if we don’t put a fork in this behavior, what will he be trying to do at 11? One thing my husband and I agreed on is, he will stop watching all these sitcoms with kids that are older than him. He doesn’t need to see shows with teenagers doing teenage things, because he is trying to implement that behavior.

He already spends a lot of time with his father, but usually his siblings are there. We think its time to start spending even more one-on-one time. It’s important to see his father in certain situations doing the right thing. My husband is also going to start talking to him about girls (the do’s & don’ts).

I hear parents say all the time, “I’m not ready for this!” referring to different things parents go through. My husband and I had this moment Friday evening.

What was your “I’m not ready for this!” moment?

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Amazed at How My Part-Time Blogging Got Me a Full Time “Media” Job & You a Free Gift

Have you ever looked back in time at a point in your life and thought, “Wow, it’s funny how it all came together!” Life is funny like that…full of moments that connect, allowing you to sit back and look at the bigger picture.

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Last year on August 29, 2013, I wrote a post called What Are You Doing with the Dash?, which talked about life and are you making the best of it. Who would have thought that exactly one year later on August 29, 2014, it would be my last day at the job that I felt was holding me back.

I posted a status on Facebook a few months ago that I really wanted to work in media. Most people thought I was already in the field because of the work I do on my blog, but they were wrong. My full time job was at college, evaluating transcripts (but I am very grateful for my time there).

Late July, I applied to attend the school I worked at. I wanted to take a writing class in the Television Production department. I needed to take 3 classes to get into the intern class. My supervisor wouldn’t approve it, for her own reasons. After going to Human Resources, and having them tell me it was soley up to her – I asked her again. She said, “No. Not now.”, which was deferring me from my personal goals.

My emotions behind that situation is another blog post, but that day I applied for the position I have now. So, although I was hurt, mad and disappointed at the way it was handled at my old job. I am now very grateful, she denied me. It all worked together for my good.

Last month, I became the Digital Media Coordinator for BlackandMarriedWithKids.com !!

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What is a Digital Media Coordinator? Basically, I am now the editor of the website. BMWK, publishes 5-7 articles a day and manages 30+ freelance writers. It’s my responsibility to make sure these articles are perfect before they are published. I make sure the titles are popping, images are correct, and that each article fits into the morals, vision and values of the BMWK Brand.  It’s so much more to this position and what I am responsible for, but I am giving you the shortened version.

I can proudly say, my work on my blog for 4 years surely prepared me for this position. It was surely a step out on faith to leave my “cushy” job for new unchartered territory, but what should I have done? Stayed “cushy” forever? No. Life is about change and experiences. We make our own path and create our own trail. And it was my time to start something new. It was time to grow.

I also spoke this job into existence. My children thanked God daily for “Mommy’s new job” when I didn’t even have interviews on the calendar. I just kept speaking into the atmosphere what I wanted from my new position. I thanked God for it before it actually manifested on a daily basis. I prayed for what I wanted in a position and in my employers. I forgot to pray about distance, because it’s not close! But I did pray for schedule flexibly, so I know God is going to work that out. My hours are great too!

Since I’ve started, I have also been on 2 video shoots and learned valuable information that has helped me with my own site, in addition to business practices that will stay with me for years.

MY BOSSES ALSO TAKE ME TO LUNCH EVERY TUESDAY!! 

Who is BMWK? The creators are Lamar & Ronnie Tyler. They are the top African American Relationship and Parenting Site on the internet. They have over 394,000 Facebook Fans, 22,000 Twitter followers & over 1.5 million page views a month. They have been featured in Essence Magazine, Parenting Magazine, Ebony Magazine, Sirius/XM, TV One, HLN, NPR, Atlanta Journal-Constitution and the Washington Post. They also create books, movies and next week they are launching the brand new Relationship Academy (for couples & singles).

Here’s something FREE for the Married Couples:

Ronnie and Lamar Tyler have created a Relationship Academy which launches on October 14th with separate classes for Married Couples and Singles. Until then, they are giving away three FREE videos for Married Couples on how you can transform your marriage.  The free series will share, how the you can make a transformation from the marriage you have today to the marriage you’ve always wanted. 

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11 Reasons Why My Marriage Works on My 11th Anniversary

My husband and I recently celebrated our 11th Wedding Anniversary over the weekend. I actually stopped him in his tracks and said, “Look.” We stopped and looked at our older daughter dancing in my room. My 1 year old was grabbing my legs and making sweet baby noises. My oldest son was getting ready for flag football. My husband and I were standing next to each other, still loving one another but still in awe of what we have created together over the years. We were in a happy place and still ready to face the world as a team.

Though out August and September my Facebook timeline is filled with birthdays and anniversaries. It’s overwhelming but it’s also refreshing to see so many people in love and sharing it with the world. For me, it’s a blessing and a milestone to make it to another anniversary every year and still be happy with your marriage.

Married for many years doesn’t always equate to happily married. After 11 years of being married, my husband still makes it his business to make sure I am happy and smiling. I love him for that.

Has every year been a piece of cake? Absolutely not! We just keep pressing.

I have learned over the years, that what works in my marriage won’t work in Mr. & Mrs. ABC. I wanted to share 11 things that make our marriage work.

Religious beliefs

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My husband and I actually met at church. We did the googly eye thing for about 6 months before he finally said hello to me. We are Christians and having the same religious beliefs makes our life easier. We go to church as a family, pray together and raise our children with Christian beliefs. I love that my husband loves the Lord. He doesn't deny God, but instead lives with integrity and believes he was called to serve.

 

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8 Tips on How to Create a Family Motto | Motherhood Monday

Guest post by: Toiia L. Rukuni How to Create a Family Motto

A family motto is used to promote unity and focus on a mutual philosophy. Many families adopt mottos or slogans as a guiding principal. Good family mottos should be powerful, short, and clear. The slogans are usually short so young children can understand remember and to encourage good behavior and choices. I decided to introduce the concept of a family to my family at the beginning of the school year. I thought that it would be a good way to motivate everyone as we were transitioning from summer back into the school routine.

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I feel that a family motto helps to motivate parents, children, and the overall mission of the family. We decided as a family that our family motto is “Get ahead or Get Left Behind,” we decided on this motto based on all the different milestones that are family began to achieve; including the first year of Elementary starting kindergarten, making career changes, my thirteen month old daughter learning how to walk and talk, eating healthy as a family, making fitness and wellness goals, and striving to communicate and pray together daily to reach our spiritual goals.

We are determined to have a family motto in our family to start a tradition and create a legacy. We use “Never give up,” as another family motto to stay motivated in all things we do and to remember to walk by faith and not by sight. I believe that these family mottos help to instill a sense of pride and purpose in my children. They help to keep us connected as a family and to know our mission for the week, year, and for life.

Choosing a Family Motto

  • Sit down with family with writing pens, and distribute them to each member of the family giving them the opportunity to share their ideas with the family.
  • Schedule a meeting that everyone can attend parents, children, grandparents if they reside with you, and close family friends that help in the daily life of your family.
  • Explain what a family motto is and its purpose. Keep it simple so the younger children can grasp the concept.
  • Give examples of commercial mottos like “Just Do it,” and “Have it your way.”
  • Write down the suggestions and ask for feedback.
  • Ask each member of the family to write their idea down on paper and share with each other verbally and on paper.
  • Once the family selects a motto, print out a few copies.
  • Use the slogan as often as possible, and agree to meet once or twice a year with the family to discuss the slogan and entertain suggestions for revision.

What is your family motto?

 

Biography:

Toiia L. Rukuni is a writer, poet, teacher, wife, mother, entrepreneur, and community activist residing in Atlanta, Georgia. Currently she is working on a travel memoir about her travels to Harare, Zimbabwe and South Africa, and hopes to complete it by mid-to late 2016. Her first book of poetry “Daughter of the Diaspora Freedom from Within,” was completed in 2010.  She plans on creating an ebook of the same title. She recently started her own blog World of the Net in August 2013. She has contributed to other blogs such as Empress Chronicle and Bernetta Style. She recently received the Leibster Blog Award. She enjoys traveling, reading, working out, and practicing yoga.  In the future she plans on writing her second book of poetry and a children’s book. She is a graduate of Michigan State University, with a Bachelor’s degree in Elementary Education with minors in English and History. She completed her Master’s degree in Family Studies and minored in African Studies.

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My Hair Changed After Childbirth | BASiC Hair 90 Day Hair Growth Challenge

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My hair has changed. Not for the better, I hate to admit. It is now thinner and lifeless (to me). What happened? I had a baby and was disillusioned. What do I mean?

I did a big chop June 2012 because my hair was thin and didn’t appear healthy anymore. Well, 2 weeks later, I found out I was pregnant. As my hair started to grow back, it was thick, full and just well GORGEOUS! I was doing my protective styles, keeping my hands out of my hair and just treating it good. It grew past my shoulders and it was simply beautiful.

Well, it has changed. It’s now August 2014 and I noticed about 6 months ago my hair was different. It has less luster, felt lifeless and even looked thinner. I thought, “Am I doing anything different?” The only thing I could think of was that I was blow drying it more to do Bantu knots. That was only once a week so that couldn’t have had a major effect. Then it hit me. The hormones that makes a woman hair so gorgeous have now left my body and MY REAL HAIR HAS FINALLY SHOWED UP!

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Instead of taking care of my hair, I have been doing (my version) protective styles for the last few months. I have been going back and forth between quick weaves and crochets. I would leave them in for 3 to 4 weeks before I would remove them to wash/condition and start the process over again. I was never giving any REAL attention to my hair. I wanted to do a big chop again.

ENTER BASIC

The angels shined a light on me, because I was selected to participate in the BASIC HAIR 90 DAY GROWTH CHALLENGE. For 90 days, a stylist will take care of my hair. Yesssss! She will wash, style, baby, pamper, love on my hair for 90 days to grow it and get it back RIGHT! In between my visits, I have been given BASIC products to apply myself.

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I am extremely excited and so is my husband because he has recently been repeating the phrase around the house, “When are we going to see your real hair?” So the day I came home from my first BASIC appointment, he was all smiles. He even said, “You look younger, like we did when we first met.” I am still trying to see if that was a compliment.

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I invite you to follow my BASIC 90 Day Hair Growth Journey here on BernettaStyle.com. I will write about my updates and share pictures along the way. Although I look forward to how my hair will be in 90 days, I am going to enjoy the journey in seeing my hair actually transform.

What is BASiC?

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BASiC breaks down haircare into systems, each designed to take the guesswork out of getting healthy, strong, shiny hair that does what you want. With BASiC, our line of naturally derived treatments, cleansers, conditioners, moisturizers are designed to work with each other and universally, yielding optimal results no matter which type and texture. Naturally curly, straight, color treated, extension hair or relaxed hair types experience desired results with more enriched ingredients that are naturally derived with BASiC.

My Lovely Stylist is: Roz Smith,  404.725.1075 3941 Old Austell Rd. She works with relaxed & natural hair and just a joy to talk to. She walked me through the entire process and explained all of my products in detail.

Follow other ladies taking the BASiC 90 Day Grow Out Challenge via social media. https://www.facebook.com/BasicHair

 

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New Baby + Less Attention = Behavior Problems |How the 5 Love Languages of Children Helped Me #MotherhoodMonday

I have seen & heard stories about older children acting out or getting jealous of younger siblings or new babies but hadn’t actually experienced it until earlier this year. What’s interesting is that we didn’t see the behavior at home, but it was acted out at school.

My oldest son is officially 8 years older than my youngest son. When my baby arrived we really tried our best to include both of our oldest children in anything dealing with the baby. It just seemed like my “now” middle child just received the baby better. She immediately attached to the baby like he was hers and 18 months later, they are inseparable. My oldest child’s story is a little different.

Earl (the oldest) has never had a behavior problem in school. From pre-k – 2 grade we have never had any major issues. He has always received good grades and enjoyed school. Enter baby Emory in Feb. 2013 & 3rd grade for Earl. Emory was born when Earl was in 2nd grade, but we didn’t see the effect of having a new baby in our home until the next school year. I think it took time for things to actually change with us and him.

We started to see the biggest change in him the second semester of 3rd grade. He didn’t want to go to school. Although he would get good grades on test, his class work was slipping. He was having behavior problems in the class and not paying attention or following directions. He was also being teased by some students and it didn’t help that his teacher moved his seat and made him face the wall! We didn’t find that out until the end of the year!!!!!!!!!! (that’s another post)

He literally started to hate school. He was acting out. Then someone said to me, “Has anything changed in his world lately?” I stopped and thought, “OMG! I had a baby & we’ve moved!” I sat back and thought how WE (my husband and myself) had changed over the last year and how we treated him. We didn’t treat him worse but we took him being the oldest for granted. I realized that he received less and less of me and every time he looked up, I was kissing and loving on his new brother. I spent less time with him as he spent more time in front of the T.V. Our conversations were limited outside of school work because I was so into the baby. The baby this and the baby that.

The thing is, he didn’t act out at home – but he did at school. He wanted attention, plain and simple. Instead of his teacher contacting us to see if something is going on at home to see what we could do, his teacher made it worse by her actions. By the end of the year, I saw the book The 5 love languages of children and bought it immediately. (Click Image to purchase)

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While reading the book, I saw so many things WE could have done better and immediately wanted to implement. I vowed to dedicating the entire summer to reconnecting with my son and learning his love language.

There are 5 Love Languages:

  • Physical Touch
  • Words of Affirmation
  • Quality Time
  • Gifts
  • Acts of Service

Don’t take these Languages at face value, because there is a deeper definition of what they mean. It’s also possible to have more than one love language, but usually there will be a dominate. In the book, it teaches you what these are, how to recognize them in a child and what to do once you know.

I found out that my two oldest have two different love languages. My daughters are Physical Touch & Gifts. My son’s main one is Quality Time although there are two others that are very close. While reading the book, it teaches you to look out for signs and listen to your child. They will usually tell you what they want. My son said clear as day, “Mom I want more time with you. You have been gone a lot.” At the time, it went in one ear and out of the other. I thought because he was with his dad, he was fine. He wanted more Mommy time.

What Changed: As school ended and summer started, I genuinely engaged my son. I made sure I asked about every aspect of his day and had follow-up questions. I gave him all of my attention to make him know he was my focus. We did mother and son things without the other two, like bike riding, watching a show or going to an event. I made sure I loved on him just as much as I loved on the baby so there was no distinction.

My youngest son started to walk over the summer and also started following his big brother. Surprisingly, my older son takes good care of him. He now plays with him more, helps me watch him and when my older two children are home, the baby would rather be with them than us (the parents). They both love on him so much, it makes me smile to see.

School started a few weeks ago and my son still didn’t want to go. He said he needed more time. Well on the first day, I asked him how was school. He responded with a “Mom, it was GREAT!” Everyday after that for the past few weeks has been nothing but positive comments. He loves his new teacher and enjoys his class.

The funny thing is, there is a teachers assistant in the class that was also in Earl’s class last year. She told us that Earl is totally different this year. He raises his hand, answers the questions, listens and pays attention. He is a joy and that wasn’t the Earl she was used to. We said, “That was the Earl WE were used too!”

I honestly credit the book for making see myself and realized how I had changed, which hurt my son. I am glad I decided to take time to see what I could do on my end verses believing my son was just being “bad”.

I will always use this book a reference and I even learned my husband’s love language too… but that’s another post. You can get a kindle version or paperback version for around $9. Click Here to visit Amazon.

 

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Elf on the Shelf Birthday Tradition & Niche Parent Party!

This past Saturday I learned two new things; how the Elf on the Shelf tradition was started and the how the new Elf on the Shelf Birthday tradition works.

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For the last few years, I would see the Elf in my Facebook & IG timelines doing funny things. The children would always appear amazed each morning when they woke up. I still never knew what the elf was actually doing or why. I wanted to participate but I just never took the time to get the book and see how it worked.

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Well, lucky me! On Saturday, I attended an Elf on the Shelf Birthday Tradition Party hosted by Nadia, founder of  Niche Parent at A Piece of Cake here in Atlanta. The co-creator, Chanda A. Bell was so transparent with the bloggers. She shared how started with her credit cards and the growing pains it took to get where she is now (millions sold). I learned the story of the Elf on the Shelf which almost made me wish Christmas was around the corner.

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What’s new with the Elf? The Elf makes people smile from Thanksgiving until Christmas but now you can see more of the Elf on your birthday! The Elf on the Shelf: A Birthday Tradition is here. What’s the catch? It’s for 24 hours only! The next birthday in my house is in December, so I need to plan this thing out.

The Elf on the Shelf®: A Birthday Tradition tells the little-known story of the North Pole birthday tradition, and includes special instructions for families to invite their scout elf for a birthday visit. In Santa’s Christmas village, the scout elves have their own special way of celebrating birthdays—a tradition that goes back thousands of years. Now, at the request of children around the world, Santa has given special permission for his scout elves to share that tradition with the families who love them. But a scout elf cannot come to a birthday party unless it is invited. The Elf on the Shelf birthday book also includes a special Claus Couture Collection® birthday outfit just for the scout elf.  Source

If you would like to purchase a kit, click here for a variety of kits (boys & girls)!

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Disclaimer: I was gifted an Elf on the Shelf: A Birthday Tradition, but all thoughts are my own.

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When Your Child Wants to Start a Business #MotherhoodMonday

Last week I was washing dishes and my daughter came to me and said, “Mommy, I have an idea. I want to do a Nail Stand. You know, like a Lemonade stand! People can walk by and get their nails done for $5.” Her eyes were so excited about her idea and I could not break her heart by saying, “Not right now or we can talk about it later.”

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I asked her what does she need me to do and her response was, “Make me a flyer!” I told her to go in her room and write down what she wanted and she did exactly that. I went to work and created the flyer, posted it on FB and she actually received some appointments!

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All week, we talked about her nail shop. We went and bought her polish and went over how she treats her customers. Saturday morning it was show time! Her first appt was at 10am and she was set up, and waiting.

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She actually had 4 customers and her grandmother came to show support! When we closed her shop, she was all smiles. Although her nail shop is not something we can NOT do every weekend, we can always visit her customers at home. So, we have decided that people (our friends) can msg me (if they live in our county) and we will come by and Bailee will paint their little girls nails.

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I am happy that she wants to continue her business after today, which means I am going to have to do some research to help her be successful and make her dreams comes true.

Here are a few steps I have learned: 

  • Have them create a dream board or book where they can be very clear about what they want for their business and future. 
  • Help them research the industry they are trying to be apart of. Go on google or visit the library together.
  • Keep them around positive people. Kids are impressionable and words can hurt them quickly. My daughters eyes lit up when people told her she was doing a great job and they wish her the best. Could you imagine how she would feel if someone told her the opposite?
  • Teach them what a Business Plan is. They may be young, but if they are smart enough to desire business ownership – they should at least be willing to learn how to plan it out. It doesn’t have to be complicated, but necessary.
  • What is customer service? If your child learns how to treat a customer like royalty early, I believe they can go farther faster.

Check out this book on Amazon, it’s only a $2.99 Kindle Download: The Making Of A Young Entrepreneur: The Kid’s Guide To Developing The Mind-Set For Success. Click the picture for more information. 

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#MomSummerSeries Twitter Party Details & Prizes 7/28 8pm

I have really enjoyed doing the Summer Series and for my kids, summer break is coming to an end. Their school starts early August, so I feel we are trying to squeeze in activites everywhere we can!

With that being said, next Monday night I am co hosting a Twitter party with my blogging buddy Joyce, founder of Mommy Talk Show.com. We are going to discuss Summer time fun in addition to the back to school transition!

10566175_10204225049688467_1407545775_oJoyce is hosting a fun summer series as well, check out one of her most popular post, How to Get a Free EpiPen.

Twitter Party

Date: Monday, July 28, 2014

Time: 8-9 p.m. EST ~ Follow the event on Twubs.com/MomSummerSeries

Hashtag: #MomSummerSeries

Host: @MommyTalkShow Co-Host: @BernettaStyle

RSVP: Leave a link to your Twitter profile in the linky below and you’ll be eligible one of five prizes during the event.

Prizes: $50 Target Gift Card, $50 Restaurant.com Gift Card, Sally B’s Skin Yummies Gift Card,Business Idea Guide for Moms E-book (value: $12) and Get the Behavior You Want… Without Being the Parent You Hate!: Dr. G’s Guide to Effective Parenting (value: $12).

Motherhood Monday

Back To School Supplies Stocked at Family Dollar #MotherhoodMonday

When you have three kids, I am always thinking how can I get the best deal or keep most of my money in my pocket. It’s back to school time for my children in two weeks so that means it’s school supply time. I will be completely honest with you, my children’s back to school supply list is CRAZY! Not in a good way. There’s so much on there, that my husband and I wonder is this for MY CHILD or the class? Either way, with two kids in grade school – it can add up.

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How We Shop: We don’t buy our school supplies at one store, we shop around. My husband is better at this than I am because he takes the time to research the sales, papers, coupons, etc. I just follow along and put stuff in the buggy! This past Saturday he said, “It’s time to head to Family Dollar to get some school supplies!” I was actually shocked they had school supplies, but again my husband does his research.

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We went inside and there was an immediate $1 display of School Supplies! My children tried to grab everything, “No, no children let’s check the list!” Let me be honest, I didn’t really say it like that.

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And you know the shopping trip wouldn’t be complete with us using a coupon! We already had a $5 off coupon to use & a 10% off total purchase, but found this little gem on the store isle! To sign up, you get a $10 off coupon on site!! Yes, on site!

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With everything that we bought off the list an after our coupons, our total came to $24.74!! We also had a $25 Gift Card so you do the math!! Booyaah!!

Now Summer is almost over and school starts soon! Please join me and fellow blogger Joyce, Mommy Talk Show for a twitter party discussing Summer & School!! RSVP HERE

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TWITTER PARTY: Date: Monday, July 28, 2014

Time: 8-9 p.m. EST ~ Follow the event on Twubs.com/MomSummerSeries

Hashtag: #MomSummerSeries

Host@MommyTalkShow Co-Host: @BernettaStyle

RSVP: Leave HERE you’ll be eligible one of five prizes during the event.

Prizes: $50 Target Gift Card, $50 Restaurant.com Gift Card, Sally B’s Skin Yummies Gift Card,Business Idea Guide for Moms E-book (value: $12) and leave a link to your Twitter Profile below to RSVP (ex. @MommyTalkShow)

Motherhood Monday

Fly By July Results, Who Won? You Judge! #MotherhoodMonday

Back in December my friends and I started a Fly By July competition. We all planned to attend the Essence Festival this year in New Orleans and wanted to look our absolute best. Over the course of 6 months, we all worked out and had a great time talking trash to each other along the way.

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July is here and whether we feel we have reached our goal or not, we have all taken our July pictures to post and let you all be the judge. Collie, lost 8 pounds and ended up not going to Essence. She is happy with her weight and will continue to workout, eat healthy and tone to define her shape.

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Aseelah, actually maintained her weight by walking, riding her bike and in the last few weeks she started lifting weights. She started to define her shape and looks great!

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Now onto me…the day I left for Essence I got on the scale and I weighed 138. My personal goal was 135. I lost about 10 pounds in my fly by July challenge and I am very happy with my results. I actually got down to my pre-baby #2 weight. Now my 20th year high school reunion is in November, so you know what that means! #FlybyNovember

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What did I personally do to get in “better” shape?

  1. I try to limit processed food as much as possible.
  2. I eat alot of fruit and veggies and do many meatless days.
  3. I always find a way to fit in exercise. I walk, ride my bike and do many workout videos at least 5 days a week.
  4. Right now my favorite two videos I watch on Youtube are Fitness Blender & XHIT.

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I think we all look great, but I will let you all be the judge. Who do you think is the flyest? Oh yeah, be nice!!