Marriage is so many things!
If you’re married, I’m sure you have a list of things you love about this committed union and things you’ve wish you would have known before you said, “I do!”
Either way, he put a ring on it – so you’re in this thing now!
So many times, we read about what’s important for a marriage to work or last; communication, trust, integrity, love, submission … and on and on. A few days ago, I was checking my husband out when he wasn’t looking. I thought about some cool benefits I have just by being his wife, his partner, his ace!
These are things you don’t talk about with most people because it’s already a given. However, because we do them so often, it’s easy to take these fun, sacred and/or personal things for granted.
7 Personal Things I Don’t Want to Take for Granted in My Marriage:
- Secrets. When you are married, you have a built in best friend. This person knows all of your quirks and habits. They would never tell anyone because you know theirs as well. It feels good to be your truest self around them at all times.
- Exposed (Naked). Who else can you walk around naked and not think twice about it? Your spouse. You can walk around your house exposed at any time (unless the kids are out of school), doing whatever you want and not flinch at the fact that your spouse is looking at you. You are 100% comfortable, as you should be. So go ahead ladies, scramble those eggs and let him watch from behind!
- Drinking Out of His Cup. We teach our children not to eat or drink after anyone, but we do it with our husbands! We don’t think twice about grabbing his cup or fork and tasting his food. Why? It’s because we trust them and we are one. We know where his mouth as been (we should) and his germs are the only germs we will tolerate!
- Automatic Plus 1. When you are married, you’re a package deal. When someone invites you somewhere, unless it’s girls night out – it’s automatic that you might bring your husband! If you’re invited to a wedding, attend a conference, go out to eat or a movie, you have an automatic plus 1 now!
- Built-in Cheerleader. I’ve learned over the years that no one will cheer me on like my husband. He knows all of my strengths & weaknesses, so it’s even more special that he’s the one that tells me no matter what, to go for my dreams.
- Raising Kids. My husband is an amazing father. Ah-maz-ing! As parents we really try to rock out parenthood. It makes me feel so good that when I discipline, attend parent-teacher conferences, sporting events, doctor visits & anything else my husband is right by my side & happy to be there.
- Life Plan. Life is good, but who knew it could be great with someone to share it with. When you are married, you don’t think in terms of me, but we. Where are we going to be in 10 years? What are we going to do if “this” happens? What are we going to save this year? When you are married, your life becomes WE almost instinctively.
Bonus: Double the money. Although this one is not always true, especially if you are a stay at home mom. That is still a blessing, because it allows you to parent the children without financial worry. If the both of you work, it’s an opportunity for you to save more. When you’re married, his $ is your money and vice versa. Unless you have some sort of agreement on what you make is yours.
Marriage changes your life and many times it’s for the better. The longer I am married, the more things I notice that become second nature that I could never see myself doing with anyone else.
What are some fun, quirky, personal things that you and your spouse do that have become 2nd nature?