Married life isn’t always easy, but with the right person – It is always worth it.
This post answers a question written to me by a married woman:
“How you handle a disrespectful husband. One that calls you out of your name, an example B*tch, etc!”
When I read this email, I sat still for a minute and thought WOW. Out of all the things that my husband may do, this is one thing he surely doesn’t do. And if he did, we would have a big problem.
I can’t even see my husband fixing his lips to call me a B*tch, alone or in front of people, casual or upset!
Now one question I pose to the WIVES whose husbands are disrespectful – was he this way before the marriage? I would think so and you either didn’t put a stop to it then or you thought he would eventually change after marriage or grow out of it.
I’m not 100% sure, but I find it hard to believe that he was never disrespectful before marriage and then afterward he started talking crazy!
Two Questions to Answer:
1. Let’s look at both sides – if he was disrespectful before marriage, you should have nipped that in the bud in the beginning of the relationship. If you attempted to do that and he would stop for a while, BUT somehow it would creep up again – then you should have put your foot down and left it down.
What type a man thinks its ok to call your lady or your WIFE out of her name and expect her not to be hurt or upset?
2. The other side – if he didn’t disrespect you before the marriage and started after you two got married, I would wonder what is currently going on with him.
Why the sudden change in respect towards you? And again, why are you allowing it?
I am not saying this is something to walk away from your marriage over, but it’s something that needs to be addressed because you are hurt and it bothers you.
I would discuss with him “Why does he feel it’s ok to speak to me like that and how does he think I should feel?” Some men have no clue what you feel if you don’t tell them.
They are not mind readers and sometimes don’t know when their actions are insensitive or hurtful. This is no way defending him disrespecting you, I am just saying…… TALK TO HIM.
Lastly, just note that it’s easy for him to start by calling you a Bitch. If you let that go, it’s only the beginning. What’s next?
Always always always stand up for yourself. If you “let it go” when someone treats you poorly you’re “saying” it’s OK. Expect more of it.
Ok wives if you’re reading this, chime in……