Which is worse? A physical affair or an emotional affair? Do you know the difference? A physical affair is mainly a physical thing. You had sex and now you can really walk away and it meant nothing (well it meant something, but this type of affair is easy for men to partake in).
An emotional affair is when your heart and mind gets involved. It’s dangerous because once the mind is gone – the body will follow. Many times people who haven’t had sex with their ‘so called friend’ don’t realize just how connected to this ‘friend’ they have become.
Below are some major differences between what a “Friend” is vs. the components of what an “Emotional Affair” really is:
1. You love your friend and you can do anything for him, but one thing you cannot do; you cannot imagine having sex with him. At the very least, if you close your eyes and imagine having sex with your friend…you don’t get turned on. (Okay some friends are good looking and you CAN imagine having sex with him… but you just don’t).
2. You don’t share details of your relationship especially its troubles to your significant friend. Those are just for the same-sex support group.
3. You look forward to catching up with your friend socially, but you don’t keep wanting to see him when you’re with your partner.
4. Your partner knows about your friend, also knows when you are actually catching up with your friend.
5. Your partner supports your friendship with your friend.
6. You don’t daydream and fantasize about your friend a lot.
7. You don’t tend to hide your not-so-good side from your friend.
8. There are more things that your partner knows that your friend doesn’t know of.
9. You don’t think twice to set your friend up with someone, and you feel happy when you see your friend go on dates.
10. You smile when you think about your friend getting married.
1. There’s some sort of chemistry attraction developed – even subconsciously. You wonder how it is to kiss your friend or to touch him. You imagine having sex with him.
2. You share details of your relationship to your friend. In fact, you love sharing your trouble and you love it when your friend listens to you so well.
3. You look forward to catching up with your friend even when you are with your partner. You think of your friend sometimes when in the middle of your supposedly romantic night with your partner.
4. Your friend’s name comes up way too often in conversations.
5. You hide some information about your friendship from your partner. You lie when asked for information on how you two spent your time together.
6. You find yourself saying the magic phrase ‘But we are just friends’ on many occasions.
7. Your friend knows more intimate things about you compared to your partner.
8. You day dream about your friend a lot.
9. Your partner is unsupportive of your friendship. Somehow this friend of yours bothers your partner.
10. You are jealous towards your friend’s date. You secretly hope he/she will stay together with you, rather than finding their true love.
We are all subject to an emotional affair, and knowing your vulnerability against it, is actually a good thing. Attraction is not a choice, but cheating definitely is a choice. If you find yourself starting to get trapped into an emotional affair situation, make a considerable effort to get out of it.