8 Men Share with Me: Why it’s Important to Invest in Your Marriage


If you have children, how often do you get away without them?

I am talking about over night!

For my husband and I, it was over 2 years. My youngest son will be 2 in the next few months and my in-laws came up from Florida so my husband and I could get away from it all, and invest in our marriage!

Of course, you don’t have to get away on a KID-FREE excursion to invest in your marriage, but it really does help. My husband and I are co-leaders on the Marriage Ministry at our church, with another dynamic couple, the Daniels. We planned a getaway trip to Chattanooga, TN for the marriage ministry last weekend.

Marriage Retreat

We didn’t have any breakout sessions this year, and we purposely added no contraversial questions that will make the couples fight or add stress. We wanted the couples to laugh and genuinely enjoy their spouse while fellowshipping with other couples too.

Saturday evening, I decided to turn into The Bernetta Style | LifeStyle Correspondent, and turned on my voice recorder and started interviewing the couples with this one question:

What is it important to invest in your marriage?

Surprisingly, the men answered the question and the wives agreed.

You need your marriage to last & anything you don’t invest in on purpose – won’t last or won’t be a quality marriage. The Hubby!

Your marriage is the foundation and everything is built on it. God said, “When a man and woman get married, they leave their parents and cleave to their spouse.” When the marriage is strong, the children have a chance. When the children have a chance, they grow up productive and they help change the world instead of being a statistic in prison. Please invest in your marriage, because it’s important. God judges us based on how we deal with our spouses .– Bishop Young

To build a lasting relationship. – Anthony E.

To fulfill God’s Covenant!- Greg L.

So you won’t end up in a divorce. Duke J.

To keep your love flowing and keep it hot! – Juanika A.

It’s your spouse! You committed your life together, so you invest, so that it can stay wonderful.  Kendall Y.

You get out what you put in. You should invest quality time, money and more into each other because anything that is not growing is dead. Kieth Y.

To help us communicate better and build a solid relationship. We can get to know each other on a relaxed level outside of the everyday hustle and bustle.  Frankie L.


And just for fun – I decided to ask, why is it important to get away from the kids?

I would strangle them if I didn’t! – Angela E.

You need time away from them so you can re-connect with your spouse. – Duke J.

Because they get on my nerves! – Juanika A.

Many times you are so focused on your kids, you forget what your other purpose and desires are.  – First Lady Young

To make some more! – Kendall Y.

To get back to what you had before the kids; friendship, relationship, & communication. – Tiana Y.

Here are a few ways you can Invest in Your Marriage:

  • Initiate intimacy
  • Spend time together alone
  • Listen when your spouse talks, really listen.
  • Take a class together
  • Pray together
  • Do the things you did when you dated.

My husband and I were gone from Thursday evening to Sunday afternoon. During our getaway, we relaxed, laughed, enjoyed a couples massage, tried new restaurants, walked around the city, explored Rock City, experienced dinner on a riverboat and ended our Saturday night playing Pokeno with 4 other couples for quarters! We had a goooood time.

It definitely reinforced the fact that we need to make US a priority more often.

How do you invest in your marriage?



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  • Reply
    October 24, 2014 at 8:52 am

    I’m not married-yet! but these are some great responses by the men. Great post, Bernetta!

  • Reply
    October 24, 2014 at 5:49 pm

    I’m not married but I enjoy having time alone without the kids. We try to at least have alone time a few times a year. Great post girl!

    • Reply
      October 24, 2014 at 11:10 pm

      Thanks Lou!! Yeah, we all need alone time.

    • Reply
      October 26, 2014 at 6:17 pm

      Thanks Louida!

  • Reply
    Dee Dee (@MissFoodieFab)
    October 25, 2014 at 7:57 pm

    This was great. Just read this to my spouse! So glad to see men who get it.

    • Reply
      October 26, 2014 at 6:16 pm

      Thanks Dee Dee! What did your hubby think?

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