Motherhood Monday

Maternity Monday: Who do you tell first and why?

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OK! So when you first find out you’re pregnant you are either EXCITED, NERVOUS, MAD or even CONFUSED. No matter the emotion, you always feel the need to tell somebody, but who and why? Most people wait until after 12 weeks (1st Trimester), in case there are complications. I also did this every time.

Of course, each time I found out I was pregnant I was alone with the test and didn’t even tell my husband I was taking a test. With baby #1, I cried from nervousness and excitement. My husband calmed me down quick. With baby #2, I surprised my husband with the news. I was so happy. We were trying. With baby #3, I cried because ….well… if you read the other post (click here) I wasn’t expecting or wanted anymore children. Again, my husband calmed me down.

Outside of your husband or boyfriend, who did you tell first? This post is not tip or tutorial driven. It’s more about asking your thoughts about your experience. With this experience, (baby #3), we found out really early. And we decided not to tell anyone until I went to the doctor and I was further along. And that was almost a month and a half. My husband and I were still in stock. I guess what was so funny to me is how some people actually got mad when they found out before we were able to tell them. My best friend for instance was one. I told my best friend 5th, and she was mad about that! Not mad, where she didn’t speak to me for a while but mad enough to catch a 5 minute attitude. I was like, “Seriously girl! So what you didn’t know first! What were you going to do with the information if you got it first?” I didn’t even tell my mother, grandmother, and the in laws until I was 10 or 11 weeks.

I explained to someone else that, we plan to tell some people because they are just that close to us and some people would find out when they see my belly. It’s not like it is a secret you can hold for the whole nine months (well some people can). And that is not what we were trying to do. Its just that my pregnancy is personal until a time that my husband and I decide to share. Simple. And for friends to get mad because they weren’t in the know at a time they think they should be is …… unexplainable to me.

What is your experience?
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    August 27, 2012 at 2:56 pm

    Well, at the encouragemet of my HUSBAND, We shared the news as we found out (aprox 6 weeks) Mainly because we had been trying for a long time. And although it really was unexpected (we had decided prior to my finding out that we would just wait)we BOTH wanted the world to know. I didnt really care about who got mad because guess what “IT’S MY BUSINESS”…Who has the right to get mad about an event in your life?? Unbelivable. To each it’s own though…What ever floats your boat.

    • Bernetta
      August 27, 2012 at 3:33 pm

      Thanks girly for words!! Are you currently pregnant or is the bundle of joy here and putting an even bigger smile on your face?

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    August 27, 2012 at 3:31 pm

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  • KGilbert
    August 27, 2012 at 3:47 pm

    I think if I remember correctly that we told our parents first. It shouldn’t matter who was told first it is a happy event and if people can’t be happy then they should just stay away. Who cares who knew first it is your business so you tell people in the order that you want. It is crazy how people act.

  • Purrfectly Me
    August 27, 2012 at 4:42 pm

    Outside of my spouse, we told our parents next. Usually when we found out. I told my close friends as well. Everyone else found out after 12 weeks. With my last pregnancy, some of my coworkers didn’t know until I wa having my baby shower 2 weeks before my due date! Lol! #BLMGirls

  • kita
    August 27, 2012 at 7:55 pm

    I actually told my friend first before I told the hubs for the second pregnancy. I knew he was going to flip out because we were not trying to have any more kids. I didn’t tell him until I was about 8 weeks. He actually told me he said ” You sure have a lot of pads left this month…wait why do you have so many pads this month no no no no no no then he left the house bwahahahaha

    • Bernetta
      August 27, 2012 at 8:00 pm

      Kita! That is too funny!! So are you really done now?