I have talked about this before on another blog but the issue came up yesterday and I decided to re-visit the topic. What age is the correct age or do I say “a more comfortable age” to send your male child into the bathroom by himself when he is out with you (Mommy)?
Yesterday, before church started my children and I were walking down the hallway and I opened the door to go into the bathroom. My daughter is 4 and my son is just recently turned 7. My son was shaking his head, “No!”, like he is NOT going in there. I grabbed his arm and said, “If you don’t get your behind in here and sit down and wait on me!” Now recently at church, when my son has to go to the restroom, he asks me can he go in the boys bathroom. I started checking the males restroom first and then let him go. But again that’s at church. It’s another story when we are out……
Yesterday after church my husband, kids and I were at Publix (getting dinner) and my son asked to go the restroom. The restrooms were near the deli so my husband told him to go ahead, and my son took off. I just stood there all wide eyed and said, “Umm, you are not going to go with him?” He said, “He will be ok, he is a big boy!” I said, “This has nothing to do with him being a big boy, you don’t know who is in the bathroom!” So I walk away as my husband shakes his head, like I am the crazy one. I go the the males bathroom and open the door. I yell, “Earl!” I don’t hear anything. I yell louder, “EARL!!” He says, “Yes mommy!” “Are you ok?” “Yes Mommy!” “Earl, are you in here alone?” Then another voice says, “I am in here too!” I freeze because I am thinking of my next move! All of sudden my husband comes behind me and says “Move!” all irritated! LOLOL!! And he goes into the bathroom to check on Earl.
I smile and head back to the deli with my daughter. When he comes back, I explain to him the importance of not letting children go to the bathroom alone in public. I told him about the 10 year old boy that went to the bathroom in a Wendy’s and was stabbed and raped by a guy and his father came when it was almost too late. People are crazy and people hurt and take kids! Yes he can use the bathroom by himself, but he is still to young for us just to say, “Yeah, Go and come right back!” When my husband is not with us, my son is coming in the women’s bathroom with me unless I can check the males bathroom out. And honestly, I still might let him come with me. I just get nervous. I remember I let him go the restroom once and no one was in there, then this older man went in after him. I couldn’t stop wiggling my fingers waiting for my son. I peaked in a few times screaming, “Earl, are you ok?” So, I really don’t know. He might be 15 before I have peace about this. I just don’t know. I pray my husband gets it.