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Wife, Mom, Career & Entrepreneur; 6 Signs You Need a ME Day

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This post was sponsored by domain .ME; however, all thoughts and opinions are my own.

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“Mommmmmyyyyy!” is what I hear everyday when I come home from work, from three children running full force into my arms! At that point, it’s Mommy time. These children want their voices to be heard and talents to seen no matter:

  • How my day has been
  • How tired I am
  • Or how I feel

“Good Morning, Bernetta” is what I here every morning when my bosses arrive at the office with morning meeting agendas, corrections or progressive ideas. They want me to ready to go with analytics, news of the day, and insights no matter:

  • What my night was like the day before
  • If my husband and I are on bad terms
  • I have personal issues

“Bernetta, here are the requirements for your post?” is what I see in my emails from Brands/PR reps that I work with on a regular basis. They want my content to rock, be relevant, cause engagement and deliver great results no matter if:

  • My computer was slow and caused me issues
  • Family time was needed
  • I had writers block or so many other stories to complete at the same time

These are all major facets of my life currently; Motherhood, Work and Bloggerprenuer! Oh, I forgot wife. I just left my poor husband out of this equation didn’t I? You can already imagine what his needs are. So the question gets ask frequently, “How do you balance it all?” 

For ME, I visualize balance as a scale with two things that weight an equal amount. They are equal to each other. But for some reason, it’s hard to balance wife-life, motherhood, career and my entrepreneur efforts.

One day I heard Tina, lead singer from Gospel Duo Mary Mary, say it perfectly. “You can’t balance it. You can’t have it all. You can prioritize what’s most important.” I sat there and let what she had to say sink into my spirit and realized she was so right. Everything I have going on is VERY important to ME, but they also have different levels of priority.

My family will always be the biggest priority but sometimes my other responsibilities have needs that will cause me to neglect or give less time to my biggest priority if I am honest. Or, I have to take care of my career & entrepreunal efforts, which actually take care of my family. But then the question is asked, “ Do you ever have a ME Day?”

ME Day? What in the hell is that?

Just playing, but seriously I want a ME Day all the time if I am honest, but the kids have to eat! My Christmas gift from my husband was a full spa day with the works; facial, massage, mani-pedi and body scrub.

Ask me have I used it?

It’s February and I am still trying to find a day to schedule a ME day? Well, in late January, I went to the doctor for a regular check up and expressed how tired I was. Without going into the full result of the visit, I basically need to take more ME days and soon.

#metime

As women who are moms and wives, we will always have people we are responsible for, but we have to remember that WE (yourself) should be our #1. How can you fully take care of someone, when your tank is only half full?

Here are 6 signs you need a ME day:

  1. You let yourself go: you don’t do your hair and careless about your appearance.
  2. People keep asking, “Are you ok?” or “Are you tired?”
  3. A night out with your girls doesn’t excite you anymore.
  4. Your kids can make you cry for no reason.
  5. “Mommy” starts to sound like a curse word!
  6. Your body starts to tell you with pains, and other ailments.

Look at it this way; a ME day can only rejuvenate you!

It can give you a refreshed state of mine. So find a way to get a ME Day and see what difference it makes. I think it’s less about balancing and more about prioritizing. If you can’t go away, look for a few stolen moMEnts. Take a few minutes to walk away and take a deep breath and MEdiate.

March 16th is national ME Day! Who knew they had a holiday for US!!

  • This day promotes the values of diversity, tolerance and freedom, as well as self-appreciation and importance of taking care of ourselves.

Well, don’t wait until March 16th to get alone with yourself and prioritize (or balance) what’s most important in your life.

For more information, follow DOMAIN.Me on social media or apply for a Domain.ME premium URL.

How do you take your ME day?

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    Christine @MomsNCharge
    February 14, 2015 at 1:39 pm

    Girl, I hear ya! Definitely great signs that you’re overdue lol. One thing I’ve learned over the last few years of starting my entrepreneurial journey is that we teach people how to treat us. If we’ve never made “me” time a priority, it’s going to take time to get into the habit of scheduling it. I don’t have a hard schedule, but I take time out every week just to be by myself, whether it’s sitting at Panera, or driving around town, or curling up in bed with a book. We can’t take care of others if we’re run down, and beat down.

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    Katherine G
    February 14, 2015 at 9:12 pm

    I definitely need to invest in taking more me time. I rarely do it and it can definitely help.

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    Mlle Parker
    February 15, 2015 at 9:37 am

    Ok reading this, I definitely need a ME day. I will plan one this week, I’ve been working like crazy since January.
    I am so inspired by this post 🙂

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    Brandy Alford
    February 15, 2015 at 2:34 pm

    I understand perfectly. Sometimes i’ve felt guilty stealing a little “Me Time” for myself. But, it is necessary to keep yourself balanced and well.

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    Mimi - MimiCuteLips
    February 15, 2015 at 3:17 pm

    I have to make ME time a priority for sure. Like you I am a woman of many titles and I find myself being so dedicated to all of those things and forgetting to treat myself. In order to keep going I have to invest in myself more often.

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    nadeen
    February 15, 2015 at 8:43 pm

    I had no idea there was an official “ME” day!! I totally agree that you need to take time out for yourself and we do not do that very often with working and taking care of others!

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    Starkey
    February 15, 2015 at 10:26 pm

    I absolutely love this! I could use a Me Day! I had no idea that this was an official day and it’s right after my 30th birthday! That’s a win!!!! Good luck making focus on yourself!!

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    Emerald
    February 16, 2015 at 2:04 am

    Thank you for being candid in this post and for reminding me that I need to take some me time for real! xx!

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    Karen Maurice
    February 16, 2015 at 5:05 am

    Great post – thanks for your honesty and the reminder to take a ME day! My husband is a doctor so you can imagine the hours he works, I have a 7 month old who refuses to take milk from a bottle so I can’t take a whole day at the moment but when my husband is off he makes me take a couple of hours here and there – it’s a life saver 🙂 xx

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    GinaB
    February 16, 2015 at 7:05 am

    I burst out laughing when I read Mommy starts to sound like a curse word. Lol! Been there for sure! Pls take time for you it’s better for everyone if you do.

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    MJ
    February 17, 2015 at 12:06 am

    All of this Bernetta! I can barely stay afloat with 1 kid, 1 pregnancy and 1 husband so I can’t even imagine how your days, evenings, nights are. I will say I admire you and yes take your spa day and every other me time you can. Stay encouraged.

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    Earl-Leigh Designs
    February 22, 2015 at 10:05 pm

    Love this! My husband recently treated me to a “me” day. I didn’t realize I needed one until then.

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      Bernetta
      February 22, 2015 at 10:08 pm

      Seeeeee!! I need one too! LOL Can’t wait to take one!

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