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With the wisp of a wand, all of my children will graduate college, marry their soul mates, are successful business owners and will never struggle! That is if we lived in a perfect world. Unfortunately we do not, but as parents we spend our years trying to make sure our children are at least better off than we are. I am no different.
I always knew I wanted children, only God knew that I would have three. Years ago in my twenties, life was all about me although I did look forward to married life & parenthood. Fast forward into my 30’s, 10 years of marriage and 3 children later…. my thoughts are constantly on my children’s present and future.
Guilt. I work 40 hours a week and my youngest is 11 months. I feel guilty because I leave at 7:15 am to take my oldest two to school. I get home around 5:30pm and spend a few hours with my baby (& older children) before they go bed, only to do it all over again in the morning. I feel guilty because I am not there. I work because I am not financially able to be a stay at home mom. In addition to another side gig that sometimes pulls me away, I have started a small business. My oldest son told me, “Mommy, I miss you. You haven’t been with the family lately and I want to see you more.” Tears, tears and more tears. My tears. My husband is always with our children when I have to work or attend an event, and I didn’t really think my children noticed I wasn’t there but they do. I explained to my son, that I am basically working so they can have certain things (well all things). I tell myself one day he will understand and that millions of other mothers do the same thing, but it doesn’t make the guilt I feel go away.
Comparison. Have you ever compared yourself to another woman? How about another mother? I want to visit my children’s school more during the day. I want to volunteer in their class. I want to pick them up at 3pm and take them for treats. I want to actually play with my 11 month old all day, teach him new things and go to play groups. I actually know quite a few stay at home moms who appear to be living the good life. Good life meaning, they are able to be there more for their children than I am for mine. I find myself comparing and questioning my motherhood.
Conclusion. I am a good mother. I love my children and they know that. Yes, I want to do stay at home mom things with my children, but I also want to be a businesswoman. The fact that I go to work doesn’t make me less of a mother; it makes me a mother that assists in providing for my children. I want to spend more time with my children, but I also want my children to eat and be clothed. I work hard not that my children won’t have to, but so that my children can see the value in working hard and pursuing your dreams. I just want to make their dreams a little easier to get to. It’s what a mom does.
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