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What I would tell my 17 year old self – What would you say?

Ok! There you are with your cap and gown on….. You are nervous because you are about to cross the stage in 45 minutes! You are about to graduate high school. You are 17 and ready to conquer the world. You have no idea what tomorrow really holds for you but today you are just happy to have made it this far. This really is the first day of the rest of your life. BUT WAIT!!!! Who is the commencement speaker? You seem to recognize the person taking the podium. It’s you current day! It’s you in your 30’s, 40’s, or even 50’s. However old you are today, it’s you! You have a special message for your 17 year old self.

Have you ever said, “If I knew then, what I know now!” I think we all have said it. Well, if you had the opportunity to give your 17 year old self some advice, what would you tell yourself? Would you change anything? Would you keep it the same?

I remember when I was 17 and graduated high school. It was June 4, 1994. It’s funny because the very same day I graduated high school was the same day OJ was chased on the highway with the white bronco! But that was a proud day for me and my family. I didn’t know what the future held for me but I knew I was going to college. If I could have a one-on-one with myself I would tell her (Lady B) so much! The number one thing I would tell her was to start following your dream today! Don’t wait on this great cloud from the sky to come down and appear….make your own dream reality. I would tell her please don’t settle in love. If you really love someone and you know he’s the one, make it work. I would tell her make GREAT choices everyday because they affect your tomorrow. I would tell her to start saving TODAY and by the time you are in your 30’s you will have a great savings! I would tell her parenthood is hard but rewarding and make sure you are emotionally, mentally, and financially ready! I would tell her to pray more and give God more time. I would tell her to move to either LA, New York, or back to Chicago after graduation. I would have to tell her not to change her major from communications to marketing. I would have told her to start a business in her 20’s, and be a giver.

There is so much more I want to tell this 17 year old young lady, I am just choosing not to go that deep right now. I actually don’t have too many regrets but I did have a few forks in the road that would have changed my life depending on what I chose. I would never know the results of my life if I would have taken the other options. I do wonder sometimes though.

What about you? What would you tell your 17 year old self? (The picture above is actually from my college graduation)




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    May 9, 2013 at 2:36 pm

    Oooooooh chile this is a good one. I would tell my 17 year old self YOU ARE NOT GOING TO MARRY HIM!!!!! There will be plenty of guys in COLLEGE that you will find attractive and you will want to DATE…so DATE THEM!!!!! I think I’m gonna piggy back off of you and blog about this one too. Loves it!!!!

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    Yolanda @ Your Unexpected Beauty
    May 9, 2013 at 4:15 pm

    I will tell my 17 year old self to not be afraid. EVERYTHING WILL BE ALRIGHT!

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    May 9, 2013 at 8:30 pm

    I’m not even on speaking terms with my 17 year-old self. Homegirl was just too much and too little all at the same time. I keep telling myself that one day I will write a post to my 18 or 21 year-old self, but I don’t know how to approach her. Following one your lines though, I’d tell her not to switch her college major. BLM girl @

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    May 10, 2013 at 11:24 pm

    I loved my 17yr old self I was the lol. If I could go back I would say choose a career besides business to get your degree in that is the only thing I would change.

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    May 12, 2013 at 1:29 pm

    I would tell my 17 year old self, “You are better than you believe you are and you can do it. Time is short!”

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    Katherine Phillips
    May 14, 2013 at 5:24 pm

    I would tell my !7 year old self so many things. I would definitely say be more career oriented and don’t wait years to go to college.

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