When you get married your husband is supposed to be your best friend. He is suppose to be the one you share all your secrets too. He is supposed to know you inside and out. BUT does he? Is your husband your best friend or do you have a Gayle (King) in your life? How important are your girlfriends in your life? Being married, do you still need a host of girlfriends? Or at least one? The ladies below are my FRIENDS – the true definition of the word.
This is my Se-lah boo! (Aseelah) We used to be sister-in-laws (married to brothers), but they are now divorced SO we are now just sisters! We live in two different states but talk everyday or every other day about EVERYTHING UNDER THE SUN! We have cried together, laughed SO hard, helped each other when others never knew, ARGUE FOR REAL and share all our secrets. She tells me things when she knows I will disagree but she still wants me to know. I truly love her because she gives it to me BLUNT! When I am right and wrong. Our children are related and we will forever be attached! I pray. What I love about her: She makes me laugh for real & her bubbly personality draws people like flies!!
OK! These chicks (missing one, Michelle is not pictured). These are my HTL’s! When we first put our group online, everyone was wondering what it stood for! Hot Topic Ladies. We have been HTL’s for a little over 4 years but the relationship with these ladies go back as for as 17 plus years. It’s 9 of us and we started an email group where we would do a new topic everyday. Over the years, those topics evolved into EVERYTHING and I mean everything. We have shared so many things, we are now 9 sisters! We are scattered across the US. A few of us live in the same city as each other (Atl, Chi, Milwaukee, Boston, & AL) and there are a couple of bff’s within the group. For the most part we see each other as a group every 2 years but talk everyday through email. We have also cried, fought, broke up, got back together, learned new things, tried new things, gave advice, get advice, LAUGH and LAUGH some more. They are such apart of my life, that I look forward to telling them things and can’t wait for their response – good and bad! What do I love most about my HTL: Too many to name, but they already know – we just had an email chain where we told each other what we were jealous of!! (in a good way) If I had to pick something, I would say – I know they are there to listen (& give feedback) if nothing else. And I will always have 8 different perspectives coming back in my inbox.
I do have others that I consider friends, but I just couldn’t name them all. I will say these ladies (above) are the ones I speak with (& do things) the most and know THE MOST about ALL OF ME (Good & Bad) and still love me for me.
Girlfriends are vital for all women. Female friendships are precious commodities for married women. Whether their girlfriends are married or single, mothers or childless, they are the people that we find our precious moments of reprieve with. We can let down our hair. We can let down our guard. We can be selfish. We can crack jokes. We can be ourselves and relax.
Do you have your vital Girlfriend crew? Whether its 1 or a few.