Is your marriage a JOB or a Career? I actually got this question from my pastor during a sermon some a while back.
When he first said it, I was like “WHEWWW” blown away because I never thought of it like that and immediately wrote it down. He started comparing a job versus a career and then started relating it to marriage.
What is the difference between a Job and a Career to you?
Marriage as at job:
For me a job is a place at this point in my life that I really don’t want to have. If I have a job then it’s just a stepping stone to my career. A job is a place that I wouldn’t want to be at for too long. And sometimes the job you have – you settled for because it’s not the real career you always dreamed you have.
Sometimes you settle for a job because the money pays the bills. Everyday you go hoping something better will come along or you just allow your self to be content with what you have because you mind says, “At least I have a job!”
Is your marriage a JOB? Did you settle when you married your spouse? Is your mind completely there?
Did you marry him because you knew he would be a good provider and father to the children, but he wasn’t necessarily the love of your life? Are you always wondering what could have been? Even as bold as looking for something better? Do you work hard in your marriage (job) to make it better or you settle for the current state it’s in?
Marriage as a career:
A career to me is something that I am doing that I have always wanted to do. Or have at least worked myself up the ladder to this current position and in some way feel that, “I have arrived” or “I am surely on my way.”
When you have a career, you are happy to tell people what you do, where you work and your struggles to the top. You still have valleys in the career but it’s no other place you rather be. When you have a career, if you stop working for one company, you will go to another to do the exact same thing – hopefully making more money!
In most cases, you prepare for years for your career. You go to school. You intern. You do your research on the career. You might even work for free just to get experience. You see yourself in that position. Is your marriage a Career? Do you love being there? Did you always dream of being with your husband and now that you have him – you will do anything to make the marriage the best it can be.
Do you want to be there? Are you always trying to keep things spicy? Do you feel this marriage is what you worked for? You researched marriage and what a WIFE is, you did the pre-martial counseling (not saying that it’s a pre-requisite but in your mind you wanted to cover all the bases).
Again, for me it was really something to think about when I heard the question. I started to question myself and what I thought my marriage was based on my actions, thoughts and feelings.